I had an uncomfortable realization last night as I stood among a group of Young Men’s leaders following mutual?
I’m embarrassed of my book in a testosterone heavy environment.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not embarrassed that I wrote a book or that it is getting published. All that is absolutely still awesome, its just…
We were standing in the church parking lot talking about church basketball when suddenly my friend who is the young men’s president says to the group, “I know he’s not going to say anything, but I’m going to. Did you know Ryan wrote a book that is getting published?”
The response was great. Everybody was surprised and congratulatory and very supportive. But in that instant, I realized I desperately did not want them to ask THE question. “What’s it about?”
I know this says something terrible about me, but I immediately thought, hmmm-dead wife, depression, psychiatrist, blogging (in general), issues with family and a romantic aspect throughout. Not exactly the makings of a new Old Spice commercial.
And I have had those conversations with men and they go something like this:
“…and so that’s kinda the gist of the story.”
Finally one guy will volunteer, “Sounds…interesting,” said in a tone of voice suggesting anything but.
Thankfully, last night nobody asked the question. One guy did say, “Well, you’re going to have to read and tell me about it because I don’t read.”
I said, “Fair enough.”
So, my dilemma is figuring out a way to better market my book to men in a way that I don’t lose valuable male “street cred”. Maybe I should say, “It’s about a group of Mormon guys who like to watch basketball and golf who are all die-hard Sun Devil fans. And it’s funny.” Not much of a story there, but boy doesn’t that sound masculine.
Anyway, please come back tomorrow for the second part of my conversation with author, Jennifer Griffith. Intellectually we are knocking it out of the park. You will be smarter just for having read it. Or your money back. Also, if you haven’t been to my facebook author page, facebook.com/ryanrapierauthor, please visit and help me boost the number of likes. I realize this is shameless self-promotion, but I had to give up all facades of dignity and propriety the second I decided to publish a book. Now it is all about me all of the time. Thanks for reading.